I Don’t Want to be a Better Version of Myself

Belief in abundance, belief that we are made to do great things, belief in our purpose, being a better version of ourselves. These ideals and hopes move humans to change the world.  Sometimes, they get me out of bed in the morning.  But I’m realizing something.  They can have me with my feet on the edge of a very faint line in the sand.  If the wind blows a little stronger or the waves crash a little harder,  I end up clinging to MY dreams, MY hopes, MY purpose.  What can I get done today, what’s on my list, what’s MY why?


I’m in love with the hustle.  I love working hard, I love challenges, and I believe we were meant, each and every one of us, to change the world.   But I’m not about becoming a better version of myself.  I’m not about my why.  At least, I try not to be.  You see, it sounds so good.  It sounds right.  But if you listen, it’s missing something.  Or rather, it has too much of something.  It has too much of YOU.  It has too much of ME and MY and MINE.


Let’s stop trying to be a better version of ourselves and let’s collectively get over ourselves.  One good deed at a time.

Let’s stop trying to be a better version of ourselves and let’s collectively get over ourselves. One good deed at a time.

When I was in high school, I went through a season of sadness. During that time, my mom sat me down and encouraged me to, each day, do three simple and kind things for someone else.   I would wake up each morning, not focused on how I felt, but on how I could make others feel.  Over time, I was able to climb out of the darkness I was in.  Please understand, I’m not talking about depression.  That’s very different.  But what I learned during this time was something I’ve carried with me into my adult life.

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I’m not sure that the fact we feel good when do good has anything at all to do with happenstance.  There’s a push and pull in the rhythm of this Earth.  Rain nourishes the soil, not because rain is really good at raining, but because of what happens after the rain.  The sun comes up each and every day, not thinking about how much brighter it could shine if it worked harder.   It comes up because of what happens to everyone else when it does.   And I think we exist to serve.  To take all the good that’s in us, and pour it out, like the sun and water, for others.  The sun isn’t concerned if there will enough sun left for tomorrow.  It doesn’t hold anything back.  And the rain isn’t concerned if the water is going exactly where it needs to be.  It just rains.

The sun isn’t concerned if there will be enough sun left for tomorrow.

Doing good feels good because it’s what we are supposed to do.


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